Can you tell me about dating ettiquette in bolivia?

by Anna
(Texas)

How do the guys treat their girlfriend? Do they pay the restaraunt bills? Or is the woman suppose to submit to the men? Where do they go for dates normally?

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Feb 29, 2016
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Beware of Bolivian men!!!
by: Ondina

I am an educated divorced Bolivian woman who had the chance to be in long relationships with both Bolivians and foreigners. Sadly, I will always regret having ended a relationship with my Italian and then my Swedish boyfriend who said they loved me, especially the last one who asked me to live together in Sweden after finishing studying my master degree in Europe.
But I came back to my country and married a Bolivian guy whom I divorced a few years after. So I know well how my fellow countrymen behave when dating and marrying. First, there are good Bolivian men, but are so few, a so tiny part of the whole that it would really surprise you how few good, non cheaters, non liers, non heavy drinkers you might find here. Yes, I know a few good men but most are not like that, Bolivian men are not the most handsome, nor the tendernest, sweetest, open minded and healthiest people in world. You may find really better male human beings everywhere that dont feel entitled to the love of more than one women at the same time just because they are men. And yes, most of them feel the more they cheat their wives and girlfriends the more manly they look. And their friends will eagerly help them to cheat together and play around with other women, be them hookers or not because Bolivian men LOVE to have sex with the most expensive hookers they can afford every Thursday and then take a long break the rest of the weekend. So they may spread STD to their couples and put them in serious risk without feeling any remorse.
Then, if you want a healthy couple to go outdoors, to practice meditation together, to assist you in your spiritual goals or simply to read with you a book, then your Bolivian mate will not be up to the norm, because he will choose to leave home and meet his friends to heavily drink, go to stripears clubs and then return home as nothing would have happened.
Family values, spiritual values, religious faith, cultural hobbies, or whatever it is will not be of great interest to the Bolivian man who will choose to drink instead. And better if it is with male friends.
About beating women, my former husband hit on me once and before getting married I ended a relationship with a fiance who was a university graduate, thought of himself so highly as he was cultivated man who liked to read a lot but yes, he hit on me more than once and was so entitled about his last names and social position and money that people believing women beaters here belong to low social position are so wrong.

So before focusing on dating etiquette I STRONGLY advice you get to know very well this Bolivian guy and not be naive about his sweet words, sultry vibes or charming smile, please analyze him and only go to bed with him after many weeks and even better some months if you really like him and consider he could be the one, otherwise Bolivian men tend to consider foreign Western girl sluts they can get laid with so easily and then throw to the garbage collector. But to get that they will promise you the Sun and the Moon.Even could throw some pills in your drinks, so be very careful. Yes, be sure of all that and my first advice on dating ettiquette is to play the "hard to get girl" the longest possible and get to know well that guy in the meantime.So in this way you will not be an easy prey to a man used to "collect" girls as i.r. some male friends I had at university who used to get laid with Western girls on the weekend and then tell everybody how good their orgams was, what was the name of the "gringa" they so easily took to their bed and all the sex positions they had. Sad but true!
Summarizing, Bolivian men are so MACHISTAS (chauvinist) and can be so misogynists to scare you to death. Please dont learn the hard way, take care of yourself since the very beginning and learn to recognize which one is a frog and which one is a prince. Hope you dont get to think as me, looking overseas a new chance to love as I never ever expect to date or give my heart to Bolivian guys. So sad I, a Bolivian woman, see them this way, dont you think?

Feb 17, 2016
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pretty good read
by: Anonymous

yep. good articule. i like

Feb 17, 2016
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NO SLUTS OPINIONS NECESSARY!
by: Anonymous

Seriously, especially the fat black chick who has a bf but is doing her friends Bolivian bf too. You know why he messes with you? Because you're EASY! You're the worst kind of person to call a friend. Such an untrustworthy slut! You American women, in general, need to learn that just because the men you dated are whores doesn't mean you should become WHORES too! If he breaks your heart that's called life. Be a good woman and find a good man--or just live the whore lifestyle and take what you can get. When you get older and no decent man wants you because your natural scent is one of 1000 dicks don't be surprised. And stop pretending to be ladies. Accept the facts and leave the good guys alone. You only turn them into the bad guys that you talk so much shit about. Btw, i married a beautiful Bolivian woman so no, not all of the women in Bolivia are ugly.

Nov 25, 2015
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Dont judge!
by: Jessica

I am a Bolivian girl, and I know there are bad and good men in each country... We have to believe that they can change and help "bads" to repentance.
remember..
1Samuel 24:15
Just God can judge them!

Aug 18, 2015
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Funny Question
by: Roberto

Well, it seem this post is very old but this topic always be interesting, let me say some experiences with foreign girls, i am from bolivia and i love meet new people, especially people from other countries, in fact i have many friends from USA, Germany, England, and others. and of course I had many girlfriends too.

One told me once that I had liked so much that she always thought of me and she missed me, even when this girl had a boyfriend from her own country.

Another girlfriend told me that I was one of the funniest guys she had known in his many travels.

So i think that bolivian guys can be everything, you should not judge without knowing.

Greetings!


Sorry for a posible gramatical error in my post. My english is not good enough.

Jul 15, 2015
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sip
by: ppppp

There are good and bad people, like everywhere

Jul 12, 2015
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READ THIS, NOT THE REST
by: Anonymous

I dislike how many of the comments say "they're all.. This and That!" No Bitches, you find woman and men the way you describe them. Change your dating pool, don't just date Bolivians. Again, not only is Bolivia high is domestic violence, but in other countries as well. Your grandpa could of been a wife beater, or other relatives, don't be hypocrites. Any person is the way they are based on how they were raised. Not all bolivian woman are mean, or care about men. Shit, i'm a bolivian woman that many people find charming, i get along with anyone and make friends easily, they say i'm fun and funny.
I was raised to be respected, to not let any man hit me, see.? It's all about how people are fucking raised. So don't say "all" because that's just some people. Don't discriminate all of us just because one stupid guy mistreated you.

Jul 02, 2015
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Any Bolivian chicks in Delaware?
by: Anonymous

Looking to meet a bolivian girl close to Delaware. Are there any here?

Jun 13, 2015
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I'm sure my exes read this
by: Anonymous

Well I have to say Bolivian guys are not like u think they are. We can be great guys but u girls need to make us know that u are not a "one more girl" if u do that, believe me we will respect u and we won't do all of the things that u girls say we do. I agree with some but not all of them are true.

Mar 23, 2015
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some info about bolitas
by: Anonymous

i seen many opinions here and i can give you some clues about bolivian guys to avoid bad moments to remember. well bolivian guys can differ from state to state as we call here departments, so a guy from lapaz or cbba is called colla while a guy from santa cruz is called camba and it goes on from beni or pando....other pop names cuz the country now is a plurinational etnies united called bolivia, anyway... the common factor in man here is the easy to buy common drugs such as alcohol and all that inclinations start from school, why? well in bolivia there is something wrong,there are social boundaries that crush in the past, for one side the low opportunities persons who are in the major part workers and the other that are business,industry or high merchant import products people. the politic inestability across the years always abused to the other part so it limited alot to the poorest part of the society and it developed resentment,so what happened is the limited part stick so much to the "traditional" and "cultural" part of the country so what becomes with that is alot of alcoholic persons and of course society,all from the low range of opportunity and self-realize cuz in the past years having a college grade or even good school education was almost rare,the education program is very loose because of this multicultural mix in schools, that explains why here you can see alot of not respectful guys,not even mention about the 1st class countries that influence here in movies material,music,etc and add it what the other south american ones does, mix it and youll have a bolita: he watched all the american pie movies and thing the girls are slutties,drunk and easy liberal ones. they hear those nigga raps about twerks and sex,drugs... and it keeps on because what movies teach guys that you have to be a stifler or a cheat-guy minded you will have the girl,and of course it makes it worse added to the drunk low self realize guy that could never have or had good education because of the high money part of the society,years of bullying,insults,low proud in national belief by lost territories,lost sea,poorest national soccer team etc across the years and limitations, so it evolve to a guy that get drunk everyday he could with friends(lets say with friends is worse cuz is like school,the good guy who come from a relative calm and estable respectful home meets theses guys and in no less than 2 months hes looking for easy girls who get drunk in low profile place called "quintas""chicerias""home parties""cultural fiestas" any places like that turns good guys into real crap ones many of my friends turned into drunk guys,disapointed in life,in relations,in society...is like a "im gonna forget my life with alot or beer,chicha,guarapo,or whatever comes tonight mentality" and in all that spiral a girl in hes life is like sometimes, a guide for him to retake good life and goals or a worse result cuz if the girl dont supress that part he'll become even more drunker, i do see that alot in cultural fiestas like "carnaval" or a "patron celebration" that of course are made in the streets as usual in bolivia, guys totally wasted throwing in the street,people drunk,dancers drunk,decadence.... now you know why the cholitas go to the chicheria to pick the guy or husband,get pregnant on purpose to try to set down the guy to her, and make him work to maintain the family!,as the world is a sh*t for this guy, he get drunk anytime he can with friends or alone,wich is easy by the amount of freedays in the year no matter the reason,there is ALWAYS f*cking freedays as he doesnt have a good payment job because of his low education the frustation turned into aggression to the wife,resentment to society,and the home falls down cuz the guy has no respect,he didnt have it in the past cuz to his dad happened the same.this happens in low class homes all the time and is the common denominator always, now in the high class here i dont know too much but there is a better ending for those guys,much better than die choking on his own vomit, but still have problems but more known for you:marihuana addictions,drugs,money waste,fancy suicides... like rockstars but that are the low 2% daddy boys around here that crush the bmw(and i think is pretty common in the world), where you can find that is in santa cruz or lapaz, if you see hummers,navigators,humvees etc is in tarija or chapare and places like that, those are not high class guys. those are narcos so have caution since evo morales kicked DEA in bolivia this douches start to walk between us, is not weird see a pretty recognizable low society guy driving a hummer o an 2014 nissan armada he got yerterday, going to chapare to the heart of the tropico. anyway the most affected part here is the middle class ,i am from here and is getting hard to get even a good girl cuz now the girls are turning bad, they get even more drunk than guys... more liberal, the single mom profile are getting common each time,i have a neighbor but is weird cuz she said she wanted kids but not husband.... or the classic 16 and pregnant way where she got drunk and pregnant.or the live single profile,in eather cases i dont blame them if is hard to get even good friends is worse to have a good couple, this things in general are not coming good for this society of drunk super "cultu-traditional beer take" stifler-nigga life cheating guys wearing like a mix of rappers and wachiturros in bulky jersey shore muscle shape guys or little skinny ones. so check really well the family,the education,the life goals achieved, the work disposition cuz bolivians love get drunk so much they are lazy to work,or have a job they dont want ,just for have money to his family and get drunk the fridays,also thats why there are so many merchand in here cuz they wants to be their own bosses and dont work as they should. respectful: thats easy to catch ,just see how he treats his mom and friends and thats how he'll treat you, so find the one who treats the mom really good or better see their entire personality on horoscope infos and you'll have a good couple haha that last one is more precise cuz it describes the entire personality and it will tell you if they are aggressive type or cheating type... this sounds dumb but it helped me alot to avoid some mean girls here cuz as guys, girls are getting tough too so lets say girls are not the only heart broken here.

Nov 11, 2014
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Rida husaain
by: kashif

u still love randy rida? i m also from pakistan..

Nov 07, 2014
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Ridiculous
by: Talicha

Women weren't "created" and aren't delicate at all. They are genetically stronger than the male and they have a higher pain endurance.
The friendly man who says "Something is wrong with you" if you get beaten by a man? You are a victim blamer and disgusting. This is exactly the view of Bolivians and that is why no one cares about domestic violence over there. You obviously lack a basic understanding of psychology and don't know that the most prestigious gentleman with the highest education, can still be the most vile evil man. Thanks, I have a boyfriend now that loves equality, is educated and NOT Bolivian. You can run away from the fact that Bolivia has the highest percentage of Domestic Violence, but it will always catch up to you.
Also, for foreign women, should you date a Bolivian guy, at least, make sure he isn't illegal, then he would only have one motive.
For you telling a woman what to do and how to act with a Bolivian man, you seriously don't have a mind of your own. Everyone is responsible for their own behaviour, you should be able to be yourself and he should respect your cultural aspects as well. Anything else is BS and intolerant from his part.

Nov 03, 2014
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How Bolivian Men Impact Our Society
by: Miss Waldorf to You BITCHES!!!

They are gigalos, you see I know a bolivian guy who dating my friend and I mess with him from time to time and let me tell you something, this nigga like to flirt especially with the big black girls and for some weird reason he likes to suck off my friends face and I can get him off her I keep saying no P.D.A.A but these two don't get it. Then again I think they are both whipped they call each other mami/papi but I know that they do love each other. He goes out of his way to prove that he loves her like he went on front of the whole school and embarrassed himself in front of everyone which what I wish my nigga would do from time to time. DAMN.... I want a bolivian.

PS: If anyone lives in Waldorf, Maryland and is Bolivian be advised... I'm looking.

Nov 03, 2014
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BITCHES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
by: Anonymous

number 1: y'all getting on damn nerves now are you idiotas basing your experience on ONE Bolivian nigga ok some do cheat and lie their asses off but not all of them are like that. I'm a black chick dating a Bolivian guy and I have yet to be cheated on or get bruises except on a private occasion but that's a different story. Bolivian niggas are just like any other niggas and if you can't get the right guy It aint nothing wrong with him itS YOU.

Oct 31, 2014
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NOT ALL OF THEM
by: yo mama

Bolivians are not bad it just that one guy that most of you are dating. I mean he can be an a--- but what guy isn't at times. The one I am with right now is a true gentleman for the most part and meets most of my standards (he's younger and shorter than I am but besides that point) just think about the guy in general not just because hes Spanish.

Oct 28, 2014
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awesome
by: Anonymous

I am African American I have been in a relationship with my Bolivian bf for almost two years now. He is awesome very respectful a true gentlemen. What I have come to know that family is very important they are very close if any events happen you have to be there birthdays are a must as well. He is very supportive with things when we go out we get stared at a lot because the cultures are different and they ask us questions if we are dating or married werid I find it. If your in a relationship with a Bolivian man you cannot go wrong well at least I did not. There are challenges but if you can over come them it will be a long lasting relationship for sure :).

Oct 18, 2014
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I dated one in Middle School
by: Anonymous

I'm Haitian-American and I dated a Bolivian boy in Middle school, but he lost interest in me and cheated on me with two other girls :(

Jul 21, 2014
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See
by: Anonymous

See that girl "my 18 year old guy". That is exactly how you will be like if you date a Bolivian guy.. With no honour.. And you will stop respecting yourself for it..

Jul 20, 2014
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Just don't, you're better than that
by: Anonymous

From my experience, I can just tell you to stay away from them. Dating a Bolivian bolita is a huge mistake no matter how lonely you feel and how sweet they might seem at the beginning. Do not belive any word they say, they are incredible liars. Ugly, round, stupid liars. You are better than that. Let their women date them, they are just as bitchy and have no honour and are totally worth those man. I used to come to this page before and read all this, but couldn't belive this. Now I do. Don't be so stupid, wait for something better to come, I know you can't judge all the man by this, but just read what is written here and how many people say they are bad!
There are so many men in this world! STAY AWAY FROM BOLITAS!!!!!!

May 30, 2014
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my 18 year old guy
by: rida hussain

i dated my guy named randdy israel flores vaca, he was the one i,ve loved and will always love. he got tired of me and left me, mabey because i didnt meet his expectations, im muslim from pakistan and i still wish my guy came back after a breakup, i miss him soo much. i love you and i miss you randy, i will wait for you till you return from bolivia, you are the one.

Apr 12, 2014
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It's true
by: Talicha

Bolivian men don't even change after they have lived abroad. I am latina too and every other latino knows the Bolivians the same way. One of my exes got deported and my last ex who almost killed me and had his whole family in la paz lock me in for two months while i was there, and treatened to hurt me and called me ugly things, with him I am still working a court case! I was in the ER in la paz in the middle of the night with broken hand and eye and bruises all over, they wouldn't even dare to suggest that maybe someone else could have caused it. The worst thing is, the extreme shaming of women by other bolivian women. If you are being treated bad by a man in bolivia, the women will start rumours about you and ask what you have done for him having to treat you like this. Then they will all go after him and feel sorry for him. I lived that now almost half a year after I finally was able to leave. They have for a reason the higher statisics of domestic violence in all of south america. At least other latinos get sophisticated when they go abroad. I have lived in both sweden and england and they are all drunks here too.

Apr 12, 2014
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I guess I'm a drunk that like to beat up women
by: From Bolivia to Houston

According to you, I am a drunk that likes to beat up on women and so is my father. I love how you use hyperbolizes to describe every male that is Bolivian or from Bolivia. I just love it!

Give me a break, I'll tell you what I tell women in Houston, at this point if all you attract is drunks and women beaters than there is something wrong WITH YOU, okay. Men and women around the world more or less a pretty similar, we all have our good people and bad people. Honestly if you have that many problems with Bolivian men, I think you need to look within you and find the solution. Stop blaming men, since you keep getting with the wrong ones. Last time I remember I've never hit a women and I hardly ever get drunks.

Dec 03, 2013
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Bolivian men
by: Anonymous

at least 80% of the bolivian men are drunk, they love to cheat, they lie, they would do whatever it takes to get what they want... which is usually get the best in you and drive you insane while they go out with their friends and drink all night.
Ugly truth, bolivian men that live overseas are the same shit.
Run away, run for your life and stay away from them.

Dec 02, 2013
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Wow, too much to say
by: IamAbolivianMan

Dating a Bolivian man, too many variables.
My answer could range from marriage by capture, a form of "dating" practiced in the Cordillera of Potosi and other secluded rural ares, to fine dinning in a world class restaurant in the suburbs of La Paz. From body piercing for the first date in the Amazon basin to arranged relationships for political issues between ethnic groups in the Andes. On top of that, you have all the Bolivian man that do not belong to any definite group, who grew up with influence from many different cultural backgrounds. I am a mutt :D. I know! I could not even begin to tell you the vast range of option you have. Dating a Bolivian man can be difficult if you don't know what you want. We have everything! My advise would be, make friends, get to know them and where they come from, find out what is his world view and where do they want to go in life. Bolivian man in general are very charming. I know for a fact if I did not pull a chair for a lady, no matter who she was, my mother would have my neck. But there, It all depends how you were raised. Ask!!! get to know!!! Chances are, you will find a Bolivian man that you like and would treat you the way you like. Bolivia has many cosmopolitan cities and many secluded villages. Who you are will determine what you want, chances are, you will find it in Bolivia.

Sep 20, 2013
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Bolivian
by: Natalia

As a Bolivian woman ill also tell you that here we would NEVER approach to the guy, he has to work for you, we have a saying here that says "if you want it, you have to work for it" in other words, if you want a relationship, being treated with respect and all of that here you have to earn it... Foreigners that come here usually don't understand the culture, probably because in a lot of things is really old fashion!
So here if a guy likes you he will take some time, invite you to the movies, drinks or coffee to talk, he will expect for you to flirt but not that much, you need to put boundaries other wise he might loose interest or probably think you are easy, so he will take you only to go to bed and never call you back...
Man usually pay as i said before and they will take you home, if they don't also pick you up. They are usually touchy huggy people so don't get scare if they try to hug you... they will try to go farther with you, but gain you need to have boundaries. By experience and as a Bolivian girl i would recommend you not to go out with a guy that dont do this things (pay,pick you up, take you home) we see that like respect and caring! not as you are stupid and you can't pay your food!!! So if the guys really likes you he will do those things and more!

Sep 20, 2013
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im bolivian
by: natalia

HI Anna, im Bolivian. And by experience, yes i agree with some of the comments that are down, like bolivian men will be nicer than woman (sadly to say is true) if you haven't born in here is a little bit hard to get inside, altho i bet you will find nice people if you get the culture and RESPECT IT.
Beating men?!, NEVER HAPPENED TO ME, or any other person that i met!!! we all know It happens, but in another social stratum.

Woman usually don't pay!!! if they know you are american probably they'll test you! meaning they'll pay and see your reaction, if you say no ( something that a bolovian woman would never do, because men are supposed to take care of you) they won't pay nextime because he will respect that you have a different culture.
you DO have to keep in mind that its a LATIN culture, therefore they are going to appear to you charming, romantic and super polite at the begging, but is only with time that you will see if they are actually what they claimed to be in the beginning.
They are used to strong woman that tell them what to do and how to behave, by experience if you "mark the street" at the beginning you won't have further problems.


Aug 13, 2013
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dont!
by: Anonymous

Bolivian men..they will certainly be much nicer to you than Bolivian women..BUT if you get involved in a relationship with them they your worse idea.ever. They beat women and they cheat..each single one of them! i have met many supposedly decent man..but with each and i am not saying it without sadness it was a question of time to find out that hes yet another one wife beater and cheater. You just normally don't find out because they brag about it to other men. And that includes men with higher education too. Also they dont mind hitting on a wife or girlfriend of their supposedly best friend or next door neighbour! ..like even though shes not looking for any of that kind of attention and dresses like menonita lady. I guess it sums up as zero respect to women. And they lie so much. I would never agree 2 ot of 10 are good men..sorry. there maybe is 2 out of million. -that 2 out of ten..you just dont know them well enough.

Aug 13, 2013
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dont!
by: Anonymous

Bolivian men are soooo bad. Well..they will certainly be much nicer to you than Bolivian women,but if you planning to get involved in a relationship with them they still worse. They beat women and they cheat..each single one of them! i have met many supposedly decent man..but the longer you know them you find out that hes yet another one wife beater and cheater. You just normally don't find out because the women are much to blame for all this happening. Its crazy! Seriously..if they not active beater-cheater..because they are old abuelo..but they used to be one. And that inculde man with higher education too.

Sep 02, 2012
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Don´t date them!
by: Talicha

Dating etiquette, if you got money they will use you. If you are too nice they will use you. If after 6 months of dating they haven´t started to beat you then you´re lucky.
If you want to find the 2 out of 10 men that don´t beat up their women, I´d say go for someone with higher education.
This is not an exaggeration! Be cautious!
They are always nice in the beginning but change completely when they know you fallen for them!

Feb 28, 2012
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Gentleman
by: Anonymous

Anna - What kind of question is this, you sound ridiculous and making woman look insignificant, since the world was created, woman was treated and considered a delicate creature, where man supposed to go hunt, fish or else to feed his family and showing his wife all the dignity she deserves. Without taking in consideration that woman also had her big responsibilities.

So please, where ever you go make yourself treated as a LADY, SO THEY WILL RESPECT YOU MORE.
Good luck.

PS/ I will give you some information about Bolivian gentleman. They are strongly conscientious that they supposed pay the bill, other ways.. they will noticed a weird action. But again money is wanted for everyone, and if you are offering… probably some will take to pay the bill. But… then its your choice to consider his “gentleness”

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